Yesterday's mail brought an invitation to a shower that I have no desire to go to. It's for an old friend that through time and circumstances the friendship has waned. I appreciate the gesture. We are not to the point where it would be like asking for a gift. We are still doing the "my life is so busy" bit. But how do you break it off? Should it be just allowed to die gracefully, through neglect? Or should there be an aburpt ending, through a confrontation of sorts? I'm at a loss, quite frankly. I could go through the various points and reasons I have for not wanting to continue the relationship, but I fear that the individual would be recognized. Not something that I want to do as we have mutual friends who might read this. I do have bigger reasons than "my life is busy." Screw that. Everyone's life is busy. Any advice out for the situation? Have you gone through the graceful demise? Or the confrontation? What knowledge can I glean from your experiences?